It can be physically and emotionally taxing to care for an elderly loved one in a nursing home. You want the best for them, but sometimes things go wrong. Neglect happens more often than you might think, and it’s not always easy to spot.
But don’t worry – you’re not alone in this. With a little know-how, you can help keep your family member safe and comfortable.
Watch out for these physical signs
Your loved one’s appearance can tell you a lot about the care they are receiving. Keep an eye out for:
- Bedsores: These nasty sores pop up when someone’s been lying in one spot too long
- Bruises: Unexplained marks might mean rough handling or falls
- Messy look: Dirty clothes or a strong smell could point to poor care
- Dry mouth: Chapped lips or confusion might mean they’re not getting enough water
- Weight loss: If they’re looking thin or fatigued, they might not be getting fed properly
Trust your gut. If something seems off, it probably is. Don’t be afraid to speak up and ask questions.
Don’t ignore emotional changes
Sometimes, the signs aren’t as obvious. Your loved one’s mood or behavior might change. Look for:
- Keeping to themselves more than usual
- Acting different than they normally do
- Clamming up when staff are around
- Not joining in activities they used to enjoy
- Seeming scared or worried for no clear reason
These could be red flags that something’s not right. It’s okay to dig deeper and find out what’s going on.
Remember, you know your loved one best. Visit often and stay alert. If you notice anything odd, talk to the staff or get some legal advice. You’re not just looking out for your family – you’re standing up for everyone who calls that nursing home their home.